Desire fades away – there is nothing objectionable or unusual about it. However, when couples start to think that sex is normal, they run to the women’s shop to find a change, even if they don’t want it. Toys help some people, while others feel less emotional and satisfied even when given a toy. What to do? Sit down and talk to each other, and learn about the psychology of gender.
Expert in gender identity and training, shares some effective techniques.
How close are you and your partner?
At the beginning of a relationship, we want to get to know and learn about each other. But the longer this goes on, the more you will feel like you understand each other inside and out. This is not true: everyone changes every day. To avoid losing yourself in the moment, make it a point to talk to your partner and learn from each other. Discuss each other’s feelings, find out how each other is doing, what new hobbies you have recently taken up, and what makes you happy.
Don’t forget to touch on the areas of conversation. Identify your general preferences and what you enjoy about the subject matter, and combine them. Discuss different types of sex and find out what your interests are.
You can learn a lot about your partner by talking to each other, even if the amount of sex you want may not match their preferences. It’s important to remember that everyone’s libido is different (sometimes libido can drop due to health reasons), and through discussion you can find an option that works for both of you. If you have a situation where something is not being said, you are upset or hurt, talk about your feelings. Explain to your partner what is bothering you, express the anger that has turned into anger, and try to find a solution together. Do not hesitate to ask unexpected questions: this will help you get closer. Ask your partner to list the brightest moments in his life with you and without you, or, for example, three memorable sexual experiences. This will help you better understand his feelings and emotions: what makes him change, what makes him happy, and whether he wants to repeat them. Feel free to share your experiences with others without fear of being judged.
What is passion?
About feelings
Feelings are a clear indicator of your relationship. If you are interested in each other, then new feelings should be added. However, do not stay only in bed, but also outside the bed. Sex is a continuation of a relationship. Its quality cannot be improved without affecting other aspects.
How to get new emotional rewards?
Go somewhere new together: explore, go for a walk, travel, find a new hobby. Have you ever wanted to go Latin dancing together? This is the time! If you spend a lot of time together, try to separate as much as possible: then when you meet, your thoughts will be very positive (you can try to play strangers and get to know each other).
By the way, games and adult products should evoke new emotions in you, so use them in a way that surprises, satisfies and does not disappoint.
The most important thing is comfort and environment
Take care of your external and physical comfort. Always ask each other:
Are you happy in this position?
Sometimes intimate life is lost because you have to take care of other things, such as building a career and raising children. But when relaxing with loved ones, you can’t forget about everyday thoughts. In this case, the main advice is to take time to relax.
Use a method of consent. Don’t do something you don’t like, if you don’t feel like doing it right away, stop and stop doing it. Have open communication, listen to yourself and your partner, be careful and very aware of rejection or lack of desire – sometimes this does not affect your desire for sex, as you think. You don’t need to buy things and create amazing positions to bring back the passion in a relationship. Sometimes it’s enough to try to go to the bathroom together, relax, chat, discuss everything that is not discussed and have sex without any other means, but with passion and ease.
