Some researchers compare the process of choosing a spouse to a business. Here, the “money” in the business is the benefits of the relationship between the two individuals; for example, the history of the relationship, trade, industry, education, and personal characteristics (age, appearance).
Homogamy theory
Proponents of the homogamy theory believe that not all men and women are “changeable”, but only individuals who are in “good relationships” or have common spouses can be “changed”. In other words, we try to choose a spouse who fits our social class based on the geographical proximity of our race.
“Complementary needs” theory
He believes that the principle of “homogamy” only works within a culture. When it comes to personality, opposites attract. For example, a strong man may be attracted to a gentle woman, while a brave and gentle man may be attracted to a strong and talkative woman.
Instrumental Theory
The central model of marriage choice also emphasizes the need for fulfillment, but it also suggests that some needs (such as sex and intimacy) are more important than others, and that some needs are more important to men than to women. According to the center, a person is attracted to people whose needs are similar or complementary to their own.
Adams’ 6-month study of college-age parents found that initial attraction was based on external factors such as physical attractiveness, social skills, a sense of equality, and shared interests. The relationship that is established is strengthened by the struggles of others, the successes of the couple, each other’s comfort and peace, etc. Then comes the stage of cooperation and closeness that leads to a healthy relationship between the couple. Couples communicate by understanding each other’s feelings and values. At this stage, couples are often ready to make decisions about their marriage.
Stimulus-Value-Role Theory
Created by B. According to Dr. Merstein, there are two important locations:
1) At each stage of relationship development, the strength of the relationship depends on what is called mutual exchange (everyone tries to marry the most beautiful partner for themselves, taking into account their strengths and weaknesses);
2) Among the maintenance options should be periodic cleaning or water filtration. It is divided into three stages: arousal (attractiveness of the partner) – value (similarity of perception) – responsibility (communication of the role of the chosen one through behavior) and expectations).
Love Cycle Theory
“Love Cycle Theory” suggests that love can be divided into four stages:
Creating connections (its criterion is the ease of communication, depending on the cultural context of the culture);
Self-expression – manifestation of self-confidence, the ability to show one’s abilities to others;
creating interdependence (based on the idea of reciprocity);
Satisfy personal needs (love, trust).
The common feature of the methods listed is that they all follow the principle of cultural leadership, while the concept of mate selection is seen as a filter. These assessments narrow down many needs even further and eliminate those that do not fit. In the final stage, the woman and man must theoretically be eligible to marry.
Role Theory
Representatives of role theory believe that a happy marriage depends on harmony between people, cooperative roles and relationships.
