Who is a successful person?
What people put into this concept varies, but basically success means money, career, and social status. At the same time, all of these things seem simple and easy to achieve. This misconception is one of the many that exist about the rich and famous.
Successful people never make mistakes
We have to admit it. Everyone makes mistakes. When a person works hard and achieves results, mistakes are inevitable. Everyone knows the fear of making mistakes, but at the same time, someone makes a decision and does it, and some people wait by the sea in hope of a better opportunity that never comes.
We believe that if an employee does not make mistakes, he or she should be fired because they have done nothing. ” Successful people consider mistakes as gifts, opportunities to learn lessons and new knowledge, and they deal with failures in the same way as they do in school. The key is to work on mistakes! After analyzing them, you can reach a new level.
Successful people do everything themselves
The illusion that successful people do everything in the best possible way is far from reality. Many people, not just new owners of fast-growing companies, fall into this trap, limiting the production process to themselves. After all, a tight schedule leads to a huge accumulation of unfinished tasks, which has a huge impact on motivation and self-esteem. You are busy with something important all day, and your to-do list grows like a snowball and never ends. Sometimes you wish you had a magic remote control like a TV and could pause your life.
It’s not easy to juggle a large amount of work alone. Involvement and delegation do not mean letting go of the reins and losing control of the situation. On the contrary, if you can distribute responsibilities, you can find a way to do things more efficiently.
Successful people do not go to psychologists and coaches
In India, the opinion is widespread that visiting a psychologist is for the weak. I often hear:
“What can you tell me? I can achieve everything myself, solve everything myself. At the same time, people often reach a professional limit or become stuck when it seems to them that their current work no longer makes sense and they have a desire to change something. ” But when we are under the influence of habits and stereotypes, it is difficult to go beyond the boundaries and see something new.
The search for new meanings is one of the most common requests when consulting a psychologist or coach. Experience shows that women are more willing to consult a specialist. At the same time, it is interesting that men are more likely to turn to a coach to solve problems such as strategic planning and goal setting, because it sounds very masculine.
Successful people filter their projects through criticism.
This misconception is often an obstacle to success. It must be overcome. Elon Musk’s coach, Jim Kwik, believes that the basis for increasing efficiency is to reject negative thoughts. Stop making false predictions, criticizing yourself, and looking for reasons why you can’t do something. One of the songs by Australian singer Peru Qua contains the idea: “I’m enough!” You have enough knowledge and resources to succeed. Take a closer look at Elon Musk to reassess your mindset and change your negative views to “enough is enough”.
Successful people are always happy
They always seem to know what they want and have the ability to give it to themselves, but does that make them happy? According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, life always presents new challenges for successful people. The highest need in the pyramid is self-actualization. It appears when the needs of the previous level are met. A person may experience an inner emptiness similar to impostor syndrome, even with a car, a villa, travels and even recognized experiences. It seems like she has everything she needs to be happy and even more, but she feels no emotion or feeling about it. A person may be concerned about global challenges and life problems. Even after a long life and self-realization, she may not know who she really is.
Successful people always know what they want to achieve.
That’s not true. Once you have climbed the mountain, it is difficult to keep your motivation high, continue to grow in the same direction and consolidate your success. Sooner or later, interest fades and questions arise:
“What should I do and what will happen next?” When you get results in one thing, you may want to do something else. A successful person needs new success. His interests are always changing. Now the wave of job-hopping is reaching even the managers of large companies. Between strategic development sessions, they think more and more about changing their behavior and finding themselves. If you don’t try something new, regression is sure to occur. It seems that people go around in circles. In psychology, this state is called “learned helplessness”. Imagine that a previously locked golden cage has been left open for a long time, but no one has come out. Open yourself up to something new and it will be the starting point for new success.
Successful people are rarely lonely
In fact, successful people attract many followers and admirers. Is that always a good thing? Sometimes people experience an excess of “false” contact, a phenomenon called “loneliness in the crowd.” Communication, even with close people, begins to become less valuable and superficial. In these cases, even highly successful people can experience intense feelings of loneliness that can be extremely painful.
