Adjusting holiday traditions to accommodate a loved one with dementia can be challenging. However, with a few thoughtful modifications and realistic expectations, the holiday season can be enjoyable for all involved. Whether you choose to implement one suggestion each day or explore them all at once, we hope these ideas will assist you in creating a joyful holiday experience.
- Establish a Warm and Inviting Atmosphere: Utilize a selection of familiar holiday decorations, seasonal scents, and music to create a welcoming environment. There is no need to feel pressured to display all holiday decorations; instead, focus on a few cherished items that can serve as conversation starters or prompts for reminiscing with your loved one.
- Maintain Family Traditions with Flexibility: While it is important to uphold family traditions, be prepared to modify them as necessary. For instance, if your family typically enjoys a large holiday dinner, consider hosting it at lunchtime to avoid late-night gatherings. Alternatively, introducing new traditions, such as a potluck or catered meal, may alleviate stress and simplify the occasion.
- Involve Your Loved One in Holiday Tasks: Encourage your loved one to participate in manageable tasks, allowing them to feel included in holiday traditions. Simple activities, such as affixing stamps to holiday cards or arranging a tablecloth, can foster a sense of involvement.
- Consider Hosting Family and Friends: Rather than traveling to visit others, invite family and friends to your home. This approach not only alleviates the stress of travel and disruption of routine but also prioritizes the health and safety of all participants, particularly those in higher-risk groups.
- Maintain a Consistent Schedule: Strive to keep daily routines as normal as possible, avoiding over-scheduling. After a busy day, plan for a day of rest. This year may be an opportune time to establish a new tradition of watching a beloved holiday movie together.
- Opt for Smaller Gatherings: Smaller, more intimate gatherings may be less overwhelming than large events. Consider spacing out family visits or, if hosting a larger gathering, plan to stay only for a brief period at the beginning of the day, or as best suits your loved one’s schedule.
- Assign a “Buddy” for Your Loved One: At social events, designate a companion for your loved one, allowing you to engage with others without concern for their whereabouts. This arrangement also enables your loved one to interact with friends and family in a quieter setting, where they can enjoy conversation or a warm beverage.
- Create Quiet Spaces for Relaxation: If you are hosting gatherings, ensure there are quiet areas available for individuals to retreat from the busyness of visitors. This can be beneficial even for smaller gatherings, providing a space to unwind.
- Plan for Respite Time: Schedule moments for self-care, such as holiday shopping, coffee with a friend, or attending a religious service, while ensuring your loved one is safe and well-cared for in your absence. Taking time for yourself will enhance your ability to embrace the holiday spirit.
- Select Thoughtful Gifts: When choosing gifts, consider simple items that your loved one may appreciate, such as favorite foods, hobbies, scrapbooks, or quality time together. Additional ideas include subscription boxes for snacks, cozy items like blankets or fuzzy socks, adult coloring materials, music, or even a massage.
- Prioritize Your Own Well-Being: Do not overlook the importance of self-gifts. Consider requesting regular respite time, allowing a trusted friend or neighbor to engage in activities with your loved one. This arrangement can provide you with valuable time for personal tasks, errands, or relaxation, while your loved one enjoys companionship through activities such as weekly walks or phone calls with family friends.
