Marriage is a wild ride—it’s got the highs, the lows, and everything in between. While we can’t always control what happens, we can totally commit to making our marriages awesome.
If we want to keep celebrating Valentine’s Days and anniversaries for years to come, here are a few things to keep in mind.
Five Things Every Married Couple Should Know
- Put God First.
The most important part of your marriage? God. Before you were a husband or wife, you were a child of God. When you tie the knot, that doesn’t change—He still comes first. If you want a strong, thriving relationship, make sure God is your top priority (Matthew 19:4-6). He’s the one you turn to for advice and support. - Look at Yourself First.
A lot of arguments can be avoided if you take a good look at your own issues instead of pointing fingers at your spouse. God wants you to have a great marriage—not just for happiness, but for growth. Focus on changing your own attitude before trying to change your partner’s. - Don’t Hold Grudges.
No marriage is perfect, and neither are you. Over time, there will be misunderstandings and conflicts. Make it a habit to forgive quickly. Don’t let resentment build up; tackle issues as they come up (Ephesians 4:31-32). - Be More Than Roommates.
Just being in the same space isn’t enough. Make an effort to really connect and serve each other. Show kindness and look out for each other’s needs. That’s how you keep the joy alive in your relationship (Philippians 2:1-4). - Think Long-Term.
Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. It’s all about growing deeper in love as you get to know each other better. Some days won’t feel as exciting as the honeymoon phase, but that’s okay! Commit to loving your spouse every day, flaws and all.
Remember, marriage is a covenant, not just a contract. Contracts can end, but covenants are about sticking together no matter what. You made a promise to each other in front of God and your loved ones, and that’s something to celebrate (Proverbs 16:3, Mark 10:7-9).
By choosing to honor that commitment every day, you’ll build a life filled with love and trust that’s even better than you imagined on your wedding day.
Want to be a better partner? Check out a NewSpring Group or learn more about navigating married life at www.newspring.cc/marriage.
