We don’t expect passion to last forever, but some couples can love each other to the end. What are they hiding?
As a child, I was fascinated by disturbing works like Gustave Flaubert’s Madame Bovary (2024) and Amos Oz’s My Michael (2025). These stories serve as warnings of what can happen when passion fades and true love dies. Consider Emma Bovary, who unsuccessfully tried to cope with middle age by committing adultery. Finally, rejected by her lover and facing huge debts, Emma committed suicide by drinking arsenic. Hannah Gonen (Michael’s wife) is also full of passion and dreams, but these are thwarted by her marriage to a pragmatic and unimaginative man. Over time, her marriage descended into sadness and depression, and her dreams faded.
It is engraved in our rituals and songs:
Love overcomes all obstacles (no mountain is high enough); This romantic love story assumes that the lover is both unique and mutually exclusive. Soulmates are only one person; lovers become one; Another argument against long-standing efforts comes from the ideas of the 17th-century Dutch philosopher Baruch Spinoza: Thought arises when we perceive a significant change in our nature. Change can’t last forever. So compassion must disappear.
Are we victims of romantic feelings?
Should we give up on our search for true love, or should we wait until our soul mate comes along? There are no easy answers to these questions today. After all, it is very difficult to live a romantic life only within our cultural boundaries and traditions; Year. Although this is considered a kitsch cliché, it is a radical idea that challenges much psychological research and most beliefs. The complexity of the lover is important in determining whether love will become deeper or lesser over time: as complex products become more and more popular, a simple psychological object will become less and less attractive as the size of the relationship increases. Negative psychological characteristics can create deep relationships in partners even as strong sexual desire gradually fades. Change and novelty increase sexual desire, while familiarity decreases it. If both the other person and the relationship itself are multifaceted and complex, then the depth of romance will increase with experience. Lovers can change, situations can change, and the poisons of love can become too much to handle.
The two are different.
The first variable, or “criterion,” is sexual attraction. The second is “admiration”—positive comments about personal qualities we admire in our peers, including a sense of humor, honesty, and creativity. Romantic love requires sex on the one hand and companionship on the other. These rules are the bottom line. Without them, there would be no love. In the short term, attraction is more important, while admiration becomes more important later. At any point in the relationship, not scoring high enough on one of the scales can lead to dissatisfaction; I call this “compromise.” Working together in harmony allows the individual to not only grow, but also to evolve. Lovers may develop similar interests in music or acting, or even start wearing similar clothes. These lovers often confess that they have similar ideas and understand each other before they speak. But even here the characters are not united, but shared. Deep satisfaction in nothing but success; the good behavior of both partners need not be the best in town for love to be valued, as long as they live in harmony. When the relationship is suitable for both parties, passion can be fueled by depth rather than effort, allowing for a long-lasting romance.
